Author: Kadence Buchanan
Loosing your collie is a horrifying experience. Not one word can describe the feeling of loss and grief associated with having to say goodbye forever to your collie. But those who have managed to go through this experience state that there are ways to ease the pain after their collie dies.
- Allow time to pass: In order to accept the inevitable, your mind needs some time to deal with the stress of having to say goodbye to your beloved collie. Whether your collie died from natural or unnatural causes you have to allow some time to pass and heal.
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Talk to people: Do not keep everything locked inside. Find the courage to speak about your feelings of loss to friends and relatives, or consider joining a therapy group. People that have gone through this experience and managed to reestablish their life’s balance believe in the healing process of expressing your emotions. Do not for one moment feel embarrassed or that you annoy people with your mourning mind-set. It is perfectly normal to converse your sorrow. By talking about them, you will find comfort not only because people may be able to state the words you need to listen, but because you will realize that they are there to listen and support you.
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Have a closure: Some people that have lost their collies believe that it is important for someone to experience some kind of closure. Saying goodbye to those we love is tremendously hard. By scheduling a day to mourn your collie, you will be able to cope with its loss easier. When the sadness you feel is expressed, the healing process begins. Do not get discouraged if others think this is a bad idea. The important thing is to do what you believe is good for you.
- Invest in a hobby: Although you might consider this as a weird idea, experts state that it is crucial for the mourner to find some time to find a new interest. By allocating the excess energy to something that pleases-even temporarily-the person that suffers, instead of turning against oneself, the mourner will discover a new path though which he or she can expedite the healing process. For instance, buy a canvas and some brushes and begin painting. Select a destination you have never visited and travel. If you always wanted to learn a music instrument, this might be the time to begin.
In general, do not allow the feelings of guilt and resentment affect your life’s choices. Death is part of life; accept it, cherish the moments you shared with your collie and try to move on. It might seem impossible, but your collie would want you to try to be happy again.
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Kadence Buchanan writes articles on many topics including Pets, Nursing, and Arts
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Oh how I wish I had found this article months earlier! My beloved Collie-mix Ladybug died April 30, 2008. Making it worse, she was also my service dog. The only good thing about it was that she was at the vets at the time of her death, having just had surgery to remove a large fatty tumour that had begun to bother her movement(the vet believes she threw a blood clot the morning of her death).
I got Prince, a rescued 5yr old Collie, from his breeder that next August and I think it was still too soon. Every time I looked at him my immediate thought was “You’re not Ladybug!” I was confused at his behaviour, too: not only was he aloof, depressed, and anxious, but he didn’t respond to anything like I kept expecting him to.
Then this Christmas we were snowed in together for two weeks. Those two weeks made a huge difference in our relationship. I brushed and combed and combed and brushed and kept telling him what a good, good boy he was. Once, when we were out walkies, he got away from me and took off after a snowplow. I just cringed, waiting to hear the yelp and screeching of brakes. When I yelled he completely ignored me. I finally got his attention and when he finally came up to me he cringed close to the ground, turning his head away from me. A lightbulb went off in my head!
When we got home I let him go off and do his own thing, then called him back to me gruffly and in an angry tone of voice. He once again came back to me cringing and with head turned away from me. Once he got to me, however, I hugged him and petted him and showered him with kisses, telling him in a happy high voice what a good, good boy he was. At first he was anxious; then he was confused; then he gave out a HUGE sigh, relaxed completely and fell asleep in my lap.
Since that episode, Prince has been steadily allowing himself to get closer to me, bonding with me in the way in which I have been waiting and longing for. He is my Collie-boy, and I love him and now he knows that, too.